To be Spend some money in your future
1.Free , What is waived is money, and what is paid is time and efficiency cost
I went to a training a while ago. The organizer is a very, very good friend of mine. When signing up to pay, she secretly took me Pulling it aside, I am extremely sorry and say that because the company is not alone in her decision, she does not have the authority to waive the training fee for me, and can only give me a small discount.
At that time, I was shocked because the course lasted for a long time, with massive content and strong teachers. No matter how good the relationship was, I didn’t even think about it. This is exactly what I planned for more than half a year Expensive, resolutely to spend money.
I said it again and again, she still felt very sorry, and asked another friend WeChat to apologize to me in the middle of the night. I was “bored” and suppressed her directly with a famous quote:
” Yataro Matsuura said that I want If you really learn something, you have to spend money! ”
If you don’t charge money, I still suspect that you are not doing your best.
Actually I have never understood why people in society want to rack their brains every day “Learn for free” things. Learning this thing, free things are always the most expensive. In addition to money, you must spend interpersonal, time, mood, and various costs. And in this world, a good, shared resource or Thinking, it must have been polished by many people, paying for the time and energy of others and the cost of knowledge is the basic ethics of a modern person.
Rubbing resources is actually the most short-sighted behavior. I have a younger sister who has always wanted to learn swimming, but she hasn’t learned how to swim for more than three years because she has a cousin Every time she heard that she was going to the hotel swimming pool to sign up, she would say: Oh, why did you spend that money, I will teach you! So she felt that yes, anyway, someone could teach how to save.
But, I can only accommodate other people’s time, accommodate other people’s state, and accommodate her. Finally, the cousin has an air time and my aunt comes again, and when I study, I will definitely have a kind of “I’m sorry to disturb you.” Your mentality”.
After I got it, I told her: As for? One thousand yuan, find a swimming coach, not only can you teach fast, but you can also watch the abdominal muscles!
She said, Lord Master, you are really a typical representative of “Why not eat minced meat”. Of course you think a thousand yuan is trivial if you have money!
I want to roll my eyes when I hear this, I said, you know, many people are killed by this kind of poor thoughts that are forced on them. Do you dare to take your mobile Alipay now? Look, if the total amount of Taobao mess you bought last month did not exceed 1,000 yuan, I will immediately pay for you to learn how to swim.
She collapsed on the spot, because I calculated it for her on the spot. Last month, she spent the last month on Taobao and bought the unused skirts, snacks, and mess, adding up to at least more than two thousand yuan.
I said, would you dare to swipe one thousand credit cards right now and go downstairs to me to sign up for a swim?
After I got a whip, it’s only a week. The girl told me that there are six lessons in the coach’s nice Professor, she has learned breaststroke very well.
2. In this era, what we must strive to cultivate is the ability to maintain employment relationships, not human relationships span>
Why paid things can be fast master?
It’s because, in this China In the bottom-most environment, we always feel that “acquaintances” are the most reliable. Therefore, it is easy to believe in “acquaintances” when doing things. Carrying out the advancement of a project, but this is terrible, because there are too many uncontrollable factors behind it. Appease their emotions and consider their workload, because he is your “cousin, third uncle and second uncle” and can’t afford to offend him, but instead takes up most of his energy.
Especially many postpartum mothers are not short of money, unwilling to invite confinement sisters, and do not trust confinement sisters. They feel that relatives are the most reliable when it comes to hiring a nanny. In the end, they find that it is not easier than asking a professional confinement aunt. . That’s because you can’t show the true nature of your employer, can’t put forward your reasonable needs frankly, and achieve a cooperative balance, so you always feel very tired and exhausted.
But once you become an employer, your relationship is different. Just like Teacher Wu Zhihong said, relationship is everything, everything is for relationship. Compared to human relationship, the employment relationship is the most sassy relationship. It allows both of you to have the most comfortable working conditions. Get together, go on; if you can’t get together, we will disperse. You can change employees who are dissatisfied until you are satisfied.
We have lived in an era of employment. Every day, each of us is serving and being served by others. Why do some girls feel that they are still confused and their lives have not improved? That’s because of you. I don’t know how to serve others, nor do I know how to serve myself.
My suggestion is: to spend money. Start spending small money.
spending money is an art. I used to think that this sentence was pretending to be compelling, but later I discovered that it was a sentence of truth. How to find a place worthy of your money, and if you spend it right, you will live.
Once you start to spend your money in the right place, it’s like stagnant water begins to flow. Your interpersonal relationships, your profession, your social interaction, and your vision will begin to flow immediately.
We often describe a woman: lively and fragrant. A movable type, words have everything.
A colleague said to me: She also knows that although her income is good now, no matter how much she earns, she can’t solve her anxiety state.
I said that you are always in a state of struggling to make money instead of spending money, and people around you will feel nervous when they look at you. Once the money is in your hands, you will make people think that you are earning hard money, and friends neither dare to eat your food nor have the heart to spend your money, how can you reap easier and more enjoyable social relationships? , Save yourself from a hard life.
So you are not alive, but bound.
3. So how does a young girl spend her own life with money?
In my monthly salary3000When I was instructed by a sister’s words and deeds, she told me that no matter how much salary you get now, you must cultivate every month “The habit of spending some money for your future“. At the beginning, you should set this standard as low as 5%, adjust the quota according to economic strength in the future.
That is to say, even if you have a monthly salary of three thousand, you have to get at least every month150A dollar will be spent on the world-what should I do?
My experience is: pay for all quality content.
Subscribe to the fashion magazines you like throughout the year, in order to find the right style and dress dignifiedly; buy video website members to save advertising and search time; invite a friend who appreciates to eat and listen to the lessons; buy professional books; and This girl is more funny. She wants to be a dessert maker, so she saved up for three months “150Block” went to a private restaurant to eat a French teacher’s astronomical dessert. This is all about paying for premium content.
This is how she described it: I have to spend some money to buy something to meet in the world.
These high-quality content will grow in your temperament and insight, 30When you are 30, you will know how you become a better person.
And let everyone see that this is the money you are very willing to spend, don’t feel distressed, don’t squeeze, don’t be nervous, eat your meal, don’t feel guilty.
“I don’t have much money, but I am willing to help you / Things worth spending money on”, when you reveal this When you are in a good state, everyone will think that you are cute, lively, and not for money. Will be willing to share more resources with you.
I also have a female high school classmate who told me that she felt like she was going to abandon her. In a two-point and one-line unit, she was completely dumbfounded. I asked her, where do you spend your money every month, and she described it to me. I said that I didn’t see you spend any money for your future to meet basic necessities, food, housing and transportation. There are even a lot of chaos on Taobao. Cost, how can you buy bricks that can see the world on tiptoe?
在我的手帐本里，每个月初一定有一栏，是我逼着自己要花出去的钱，那不是买包包也不是买衣服，而是，那个钱我一定买到了新的观点，新的环境，新的餐厅体验，见到了一个不一样的人。
4． 我曾经写一句话：你一定要远离所有免费的东西
有读者不理解，问我为什么，是因为这个时代有很多免费的东西已经可以让你生活得很好，你不花钱也不会觉得有什么问题。超市门口的人堆抢购，通讯公司号称送给你的手机，免费的美容院试用卡……
但你要警惕，除了有些免费是消费的诱饵之外，还有很多种免费一定是大众普及的“标配”，是作为一个都市人存活的基本配备，初中教育是免费的，超市派发的饼干是免费的，社区的纯净水和叶酸是免费的，如果你总是沉溺在那种“免费的世界”里，那么，你将永远只能过一种老式的，人情关系式的，原始的，80年的生活，长着一张00后的脸，却活得和父母那辈没什么两样。
我们整个社会正在进入转型期，很多以前你觉得“为什么要收钱”的事情正在变成很多人的专业。 未来你能否进步，一定是你能够把自己从“标配”拿钱去买别人的“天赋，技能，思想”，你有多愿意为知识付费，你就成长得有多快，未来最贵的，一定是“你需要为别人的专业付费”。
这个观念一定要有。
比如说，如果未来你看我写的这篇文章可能也需要付费，你说你写得这种狗屎一样的东西还有脸收钱，诶，没错，你这个想法相当正确，你可以因为不喜欢某个个体，选择取消订阅，这是我作为一个收费者要面临的竞争，和整个付费时代没关系，但你没办法再也不为这个行业、为其它你觉得写得更好的，你想得到那个知识点付费。
前几天，去一个经商的长辈家喝下午茶，平均年龄超过45岁的大叔们，但我真心觉得那个下午我简直收获了一场价值万元的课程培训。深深觉得，男女的思想果然是有差别的，女人天生是囤积型动物，男人是开荒型生物，一旦拿到投资，女人的兴奋期比较长，是因为她们觉得开心，有钱了；而男人们都发愁，这么多钱要怎么花到合适的地方。
因为花掉了，才有希望。
这也是佛学里的——清空了，才能注满。
前阵子去参加一个培训，主办方是我非常非常要好的朋友，报名交钱的时候，她偷偷把我拉到一旁万分抱歉的说，因为公司也不是她一个人说了算，所以，她没有权限给我免掉培训费，只能稍微给我一个小折扣。
当时我就震惊了，因为这个课程持续时间长，海量内容，师资强大，哪怕再好的关系，我压根想都没有想过要来“蹭”，这完全就是我计划了大半年，不管多贵，坚决要花出去的钱。
我再三说没关系，她还是觉得很抱歉，半夜还让另外一个朋友微信给我致歉，我被弄“烦”了，直接拿一句名人名言镇压了她：
“松浦弥太郎说过，想要真正学到东西，就得花钱！”
你不收钱，我还会怀疑你不够尽力呢。
其实我一直不能理解，为什么社会上每天都有人想要绞尽脑汁去“免费学”东西。学习这件事，免费的东西，永远是最昂贵的，除了钱之外，你必然要花掉人际，时间，心情，各方面的成本，而且这个世界上，一个好的，可以共享的资源或者思想，它必然是经历了很多人的打磨，为别人的时间和精力还有知识成本付费，是一个现代人的基本操守。
蹭资源其实是最短视的一种行为。 我有个妹妹，她一直很想学游泳，但是三年多了一直都没有学会，是因为她有个表姐每次听说她要去酒店游泳池报名都会说：哎呀为什么要花那个钱，我教你！于是她也就觉得是啊，反正有人可以教能省则省。
可是，就只能迁就别人的时间，迁就别人的状态，还要迁就她好不容易有空表姐又来了大姨妈，而且学习的时候，也肯定会抱有一种：“对不起打扰你了的心态”。
我知道了以后跟她说：至于吗，一千块，找个游泳教练，不仅教得快还有腹肌可以看！
她说掌门大人，你真是“何不食肉糜”的典型代表，你有钱当然觉得一千块小意思了！
我听到这种话就想翻白眼，我说你知道吗，很多人就是被这种硬塞给自己的穷人思想把自己给作死的，你敢不敢现在拿你手机支付宝看，你上个月加起来买的淘宝乱七八糟的东西没有超过一千块的话，我马上掏钱请你学游泳。
她当场就崩溃了，因为我当场给她算了一下，上了月她花在淘宝上买了一次就闲置的裙子，零食，乱七八糟，加起来至少有两千多块。
我说，你敢不敢这会儿立马刷一千块信用卡去我楼下报名学个游泳？
被我抽了一鞭子之后，这才一个星期，姑娘告诉我，六次课，在腹肌小鲜肉教练的nice教授下，她已经很棒地把蛙泳学会了。
是因为，在这个中国以人情社会垫底的大环境下，我们总是觉得“熟人”是最可靠的，所以做事也容易相信“熟人”，觉得自己赚了，省了，在没有经济牵扯的情况下，我们依靠一种人情关系来进行一个项目的推进，但这是很可怕的，因为背后有太多不可控因素。安抚他们的情绪，考虑他们的工作量，因为他是你“表姐三叔二姨夫”而得罪不起，反而占用大部分精力。
尤其很多产后妈妈，并不缺钱，也不愿意请月嫂，不信任月嫂，在请保姆的问题上觉得还是亲戚最靠谱，最后发现反而不比请一个专业的月嫂阿姨来的轻松。那是因为，你没有办法展现你的雇主本色，不能坦率提出你合理的需求，达到一种合作的平衡，所以永远觉得很累很疲惫。
但是一旦你成为雇主，你们的关系就不一样了，就像武志红老师说，关系就是一切，一切为了关系。 相比人情，雇佣关系是最飒爽的关系，他让你们双方都绽放出最舒服的工作状态。 合得来，继续；合不来，散伙。不满意的雇员你可以一换再换，换到满意为止。
我们已经生活在了一个雇佣时代，每天我们每个人都在服务别人，也在被别人服务，有些女生为什么觉得自己依然迷茫，生活没有改进，那是因为，你既不知道要怎么服务别人，也不知道如何服务自己。
我的建议就是：去花钱。从小钱开始花。
花钱是一门艺术。以前我也觉得这句话是装逼的，但是后来发现这是一句真理。如何找准值得你花钱的地方，花对了，你就状态就活了。
一旦你开始把钱花对了地方，就像死水开始流动，你的人际关系，你的专业，你的社交，你的眼界，随即就会开始流动起来。
我们时常形容一个女人：活色生香。 一个活字，言语了所有。
有个同行对我说：她自己也知道，虽然现在收入不错，不管挣多少钱，也解决不了她的焦虑状态。
我说那是你永远在处于一种疲于奔命的挣钱而不是花钱状态里，身边人看着你就会觉得紧张。钱一旦到了你手里，你就会让人觉得你挣的是苦钱，朋友们既不敢吃你的饭，也不忍心花你的钱，你又如何收获更轻松，更愉悦的社交关系，把自己从一个劳苦命当中拯救出来呢。
所以你不是活的，而是捆绑着的。
在我月薪3000的时候，深得一位姐姐的言传身教，是她告诉我，不管你现在拿多少薪水，你一定要养成每个月“为自己的未来花点钱的习惯”。一开始，最低你要把这个标准定到5%，以后根据经济实力调整额度。
也就是哪怕月薪三千，你至少每个月要拿150块钱出来花给这个世界——要做什么呢？
我的经验是：为一切优质内容付费。
订阅全年你喜欢的时尚杂志，以求找准风格穿得端庄得体；买视频网站会员，节省广告和搜索时间；请一个很欣赏的朋友吃饭聆听经验教训；拿来买专业书籍；还有个女生更搞笑，她想做甜品师，所以她攒了三个月的“150块”去私房餐厅吃了一个法国老师的天价甜品。这都是为优质内容付费。
她是这么形容的：我总得花点钱，去买点世面见见。
这些优质内容，会结结实实长在你的气质和见识上，30岁之后，你就会知道你是如何成为一个更好的人的。
而且要让大家看到，这是你十分愿意花出去的钱，不心疼，不拧巴，不紧张，吃你一顿饭，不必有罪恶感。
“我没多少钱，但我愿意为你 / 值得的事情花钱”，当你流露出这样的状态的时候，大家才会觉得你是可爱的，活泼的，不为钱拧巴的。才会愿意和你分享更多资源。
我还有一个高中女同学，对我说，她感觉自己要废掉了，在一个两点一线的单位，已经完全木讷。我问她，你每个月把钱花在哪里，她就跟我描述了一下，我说我没有看到你为你的未来花任何一点钱，满足基本衣食住行而已，甚至有很多是淘宝的乱花费，你又如何买到能够踮脚看世界的砖头呢。
在我的手帐本里，每个月初一定有一栏，是我逼着自己要花出去的钱，那不是买包包也不是买衣服，而是，那个钱我一定买到了新的观点，新的环境，新的餐厅体验，见到了一个不一样的人。
有读者不理解，问我为什么，是因为这个时代有很多免费的东西已经可以让你生活得很好，你不花钱也不会觉得有什么问题。超市门口的人堆抢购，通讯公司号称送给你的手机，免费的美容院试用卡……
但你要警惕，除了有些免费是消费的诱饵之外，还有很多种免费一定是大众普及的“标配”，是作为一个都市人存活的基本配备，初中教育是免费的，超市派发的饼干是免费的，社区的纯净水和叶酸是免费的，如果你总是沉溺在那种“免费的世界”里，那么，你将永远只能过一种老式的，人情关系式的，原始的，80年的生活，长着一张00后的脸，却活得和父母那辈没什么两样。
我们整个社会正在进入转型期，很多以前你觉得“为什么要收钱”的事情正在变成很多人的专业。 未来你能否进步，一定是你能够把自己从“标配”拿钱去买别人的“天赋，技能，思想”，你有多愿意为知识付费，你就成长得有多快，未来最贵的，一定是“你需要为别人的专业付费”。
这个观念一定要有。
比如说，如果未来你看我写的这篇文章可能也需要付费，你说你写得这种狗屎一样的东西还有脸收钱，诶，没错，你这个想法相当正确，你可以因为不喜欢某个个体，选择取消订阅，这是我作为一个收费者要面临的竞争，和整个付费时代没关系，但你没办法再也不为这个行业、为其它你觉得写得更好的，你想得到那个知识点付费。
前几天，去一个经商的长辈家喝下午茶，平均年龄超过45岁的大叔们，但我真心觉得那个下午我简直收获了一场价值万元的课程培训。深深觉得，男女的思想果然是有差别的，女人天生是囤积型动物，男人是开荒型生物，一旦拿到投资，女人的兴奋期比较长，是因为她们觉得开心，有钱了；而男人们都发愁，这么多钱要怎么花到合适的地方。
因为花掉了，才有希望。
这也是佛学里的——清空了，才能注满。
